Thursday, February 21, 2008

Your Good Friend and Mine...

It crawls through your ear like a worm entering your mind and eating away at chunks of your soul until it has completely consumed you. Stripping away dignity, respect, and honor, killing everything in its path, it doesn’t discriminate against race, culture, or gender. It has traveled the globe, has been around since the Garden of Eden and still going strong in the twenty- first century. Many people open the door and let it in, allow me introduce to you our good friend ‘Lying.’

Lying is a horrific act; particularly when told to someone you love or care about. Often times we feel as though we are protecting others from hurt, or keeping ourselves out of trouble. In reality we are being selfish. Lately I have wondered why we lie. I believe since we lie to ourselves it is effortless to lie to someone else. Lying is recreational like a sport, a game almost to see how much one can get away with.

It amazes me how we would rather look somebody dead in their face and tell them a lie rather than to risk telling the truth. Lies tear down people lives, relationship, and trust. Think about how you felt when someone you loved lied. Do you recall the disgust, resentment, uncertainty, and pain you felt when the lie was exposed? Lying destroys relationships and friendships daily.

The problem with a lie is that they are hard to keep up with and remember. There is always a point were you will get caught slipping. No one is a perfect liar. In dating/ relationship the simplest lies are told unnecessarily. The dating world wouldn’t really be a game if people didn’t lie. If you are in a relationship, please respect your mate enough to tell them the truth. The fact of the matter is that the truth hurts, but to be trapped in a lie is like death. A man/ woman who cheat on their mates have to lie to such a great extent that everyone ends up losing. However, if that man/woman had been honest with themselves about whatever is causing them to cheat, there would be no need for a lie.

I believe the key is to be honest with yourself first, and then you will be honest with others. If the truth was told more often we would find ourselves in less awkward situation. There are milliseconds between a question and the answers were you chose to tell the truth or a lie. If you don’t feel guilty when you lie you have been lying for way to long.

I challenge you to go a full day, 24 hours without telling a lie and tell me what happens.

Why do you lie and why do you think people lie?

“The worst lies are the lies we tell ourselves. We live in denial of what we do, even what we think. We do this because we're afraid. We fear we will not find love, and when we find it we fear we'll lose it. We fear that if we do not have love we will be unhappy.” - Richard Bach

Until next time on "The Journey of Ms. Devereaux

Friday, February 15, 2008

Nas Has Lost His Mind...

I am not sure if you guys have seen or heard about this. Personally, I don't understand why he believes he can or should take the time to change or even discuss this issue. There are so many other things he could have chose to talk about. Here are a few...

Fatherless children

Uneducated Children

Crime killing young black children

Poor Haitains Eating Dirt

Click here and watch the video of Nas explaining to CNN.

I don't understand this guy and I would like to know what you all think. Like my cousin says I am really scratching my head on this one. This is the last thing we need while a black man is running for President. Is it just me or is Nas losing his mind!!!

Monday, February 11, 2008

Do you agree?...

A friend of mine sent this to me and I would like know what you guys think about this list. Do you agree? What would you add or delete?

A Woman Should Know:
To love herself
Money Management
How to do her hair/makeup
Take care of their bodies (workout)
They need to have the reliable "lil black/red dress"
Control their emotions
Say what they mean
Don't ask questions they don't want the answers to
Change a tire
A man needs to be held too
She should have at least one real male friend (nothing more nothing less than friendship)
PMS is not an excuse
Find yourself before you find a man
Men are insecure about their bodies too
Exes do make us uncomfortable
The difference between a phillips and flat head screwdriver
How to use at least one power tool
One sport
Name of a team in that sport
A player on that team
Maybe a fact about the sport
Cook at least one thing off the chain

Every man should know:
how to change a diaper
how to clean/cook/wash clothes for himself
that a woman also wants to be seduced
that a woman loves a man who smells amazing.
how to really kiss
how to caress
how to use his hands...i.e. fix things around the house, in the car
that paying for dinner is not outdated
how to be romantic
that a woman is not a mind reader that is why we ask so many expressive, communicate!!!
reading is fundamental
how to manage money
that investing early is the key to success
what type of person they would like to be in the have a plan
drinking themselves under the table is not cute
to show their emotions
know at least one "chic-flick" they can tolerate and appreciate
be consistant
Ask questions...don't guess.
be a comfort not a "mr. fix" it

Thursday, February 7, 2008

I Love You...

“I love you” is an extremely powerful phrase. Often times it’s misused. There are times when friends cross my mind, and I don’t have anything to say, but I just want to let them know that I am thinking about them. Recently, I called a friend and all I could think to say on their voicemail was “I love you”. Little did I know how it would impact my friend and whatever was going on their life. This got me to thinking how often do we say this phrase and really mean it? Whether it’s a mate, friend, family, or church member, I believe saying “I love you” is just as heartfelt as a hug, smile, or kiss.

Often times we get caught up in our busy lives and assume that those we love should just know how we feel about them. Although you may think you show it in your actions, it makes a HUGE difference when you say it. You never know what a person is going through. This life we live can get so hard and knowing that someone loves you can give you just enough of a push to keep going.

Remember we aren’t able to control the time we have with our love ones. Each day try to make the effort of letting those close to you know you love them by saying “I love you”. It really can make a difference especially if you show it in your actions as well.

I really don’t have much more to say about this subject, but I think you all get my point.

Until next time on “The Journey of Ms.Devereaux.”