Thursday, February 21, 2008

Your Good Friend and Mine...

It crawls through your ear like a worm entering your mind and eating away at chunks of your soul until it has completely consumed you. Stripping away dignity, respect, and honor, killing everything in its path, it doesn’t discriminate against race, culture, or gender. It has traveled the globe, has been around since the Garden of Eden and still going strong in the twenty- first century. Many people open the door and let it in, allow me introduce to you our good friend ‘Lying.’

Lying is a horrific act; particularly when told to someone you love or care about. Often times we feel as though we are protecting others from hurt, or keeping ourselves out of trouble. In reality we are being selfish. Lately I have wondered why we lie. I believe since we lie to ourselves it is effortless to lie to someone else. Lying is recreational like a sport, a game almost to see how much one can get away with.

It amazes me how we would rather look somebody dead in their face and tell them a lie rather than to risk telling the truth. Lies tear down people lives, relationship, and trust. Think about how you felt when someone you loved lied. Do you recall the disgust, resentment, uncertainty, and pain you felt when the lie was exposed? Lying destroys relationships and friendships daily.

The problem with a lie is that they are hard to keep up with and remember. There is always a point were you will get caught slipping. No one is a perfect liar. In dating/ relationship the simplest lies are told unnecessarily. The dating world wouldn’t really be a game if people didn’t lie. If you are in a relationship, please respect your mate enough to tell them the truth. The fact of the matter is that the truth hurts, but to be trapped in a lie is like death. A man/ woman who cheat on their mates have to lie to such a great extent that everyone ends up losing. However, if that man/woman had been honest with themselves about whatever is causing them to cheat, there would be no need for a lie.

I believe the key is to be honest with yourself first, and then you will be honest with others. If the truth was told more often we would find ourselves in less awkward situation. There are milliseconds between a question and the answers were you chose to tell the truth or a lie. If you don’t feel guilty when you lie you have been lying for way to long.

I challenge you to go a full day, 24 hours without telling a lie and tell me what happens.

Why do you lie and why do you think people lie?

“The worst lies are the lies we tell ourselves. We live in denial of what we do, even what we think. We do this because we're afraid. We fear we will not find love, and when we find it we fear we'll lose it. We fear that if we do not have love we will be unhappy.” - Richard Bach

Until next time on "The Journey of Ms. Devereaux


ErynMyisha said...

some people lie out of pleasure, just to see how far they can go. others lie because in the millisecond that we debate between the truth and a lie, the lie seems easier to deal with at the moment. white lies, big lies, small lies, it doesn't matter, they all end up coming back on you in some form or fashion. i will take the 24 hour challenge.

Dat dude said...

"Why do you lie and why do you think people lie"?

Oh wow, thats a REAL brainteaser of a question!

So, I'm going to take a wild guess here....

ans) Because its easier than telling the truth?!?!


Anonymous said...

People just don't like to tell the turth so they rather create a lie. It not good to lie but some time it not bad depend on what your lying about. Point is a lie is a lie and either way it goes it not good to tell them. People lie because it easy to tell a lie then the truth.